Don't assume

Although I share when I'm going through mania or depression here and on Facebook. I would much perfer to share in person especially with close friends and family. There is nothing I'm asking you to fix. I just want you to listen without suddenly changing the subject or preaching to me. Please help me that way.

Plus, don't assume you know how I feel by how I look or sound. Hearing "well you look / sound well" doesn't feel like a compliment. It feels like you're ready to end the conversation. Black women know to look and sound well because people don't generally believe we are in pain. Believe us no matter what we sound like.